When you feel ignored by your partner

When you don't feel very important to your partner anymore
and it's driving you crazy, you can end up saying and doing all
kinds of things that just make your partner pull even further
away from you.
Whether your partner believes that he or she is guilty of
ignoring you is irrelevant because in most instances, feeling ignored is all in the eye
of the beholder.

When you feel ignored, no amount of logic and explanation can make it better.
And you can still be jealous and feel ignored even though your partner feels he or she
is giving you lots of attention.
So what do you do if you're feeling ignored by your partner and your jealousy
causes you to start fights which threaten to ruin your relationship?

1. Ask yourself if there are times when you don't feel ignored by your partner. If
there are times when you feel like you are getting the love you want from him or
her, then weigh how much of the time you feel you're being ignored.

2. If you're not getting what you want from your relationship most of the time, then
stop being angry and take a step to figure out if you can get it from this relationship.

The absolute truth is that you can't force someone to act in loving ways toward you if they
don't want to.
Stop the unhealthy cycle of being angry and fighting and look at this relationship in
an honest light. Look at whether you both want the same things overall and if you
do, then find ways to come together.
If not, ask for what you want and pay attention to what your partner says and
does. Notice whether he or she comes toward you or away from you during the next
few weeks or months.
Then you'll have your answer.
If you're being ignored, take a bird's eye view of your situation and honestly assess
whether it's a deal breaker for you or not.
If it isn't, you can learn not to be jealous in those situations and you can learn to
enjoy your relationship as you once did.
If it is, then take a step to see if change is possible and if it isn't, as much as it may be
painful to you, take a step toward leaving so you can create a better relationship for
yourself.