How do you let go of insecurities and just trust the guy you're with when you're afraid of getting hurt?

There is no 100% guarantee that your partner will not cheat again. There is no 100%
guarantee that you two will stay together. At the same time, there is no guarantee
that your partner WILL cheat again (or at all). There is no guarantee that you two
will break up either.

That's the thing about life and relationships . They can be nearly
impossible to predict.
It's probable that, when you fell in love with your partner and you two started
your relationship, you would not have guessed that he or she would have an affair .
Maybe you had your concerns and worries, but it's highly likely that you did not
think your love would cheat.
Yet, he or she did.
Now, if you have decided to try to rebuild trust and repair your relationship, your
mind might be overrun with fears that your partner will break your heart by
cheating again. These fears are understandable and they can also stand in the way
of you being able to do what it takes to help put your relationship back on track.
It's a real quandary.
You don't want to be lied to and hurt by infidelity ever again and so you get
cautious and tentative. This cautiousness can hold you back from opening up to the
healing and growth that's necessary to save your relationship.
It can feel like one step forward and many steps back all of the time.
It would be great if there was some absolutely reliable way to know-- without a
doubt-- that your partner is actually telling you the truth now and that he or she
has really changed.
But there's not.
However, you can be wise and aware and, at the same time, begin to consciously let
go of your tentativeness and holding yourself back. You can pay close attention to
signs in your partner, yourself and your relationship that help you make the best
decisions about your future.
Look for these 4 indicators that relationship trust is building and healing...
#1: Communication is more open than closed.
Healthy communication is key to any relationship-- especially one that is rebuilding
after an affair. Go within yourself and remember a time (in the past or more
recently) when you felt relaxed, at ease and as if you and your partner were really
listening to one another.
Next, think about a time when you two were rigidly set in your own points of view
and it seemed that neither of you was really hearing the other.
These are examples of being open and being closed. It's important that you know
how each way of communicating feels so that when you're talking with your partner
and you feel more open than usual and he or she seems more open to you, you can
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