How To Get Him Back Without Seeming Needy Or Desperate

If you're a woman who has tried to get your ex back, you've
most likely taken the "desperate times call for desperate
measures" approach, causing you to do all kinds of
unfortunate things, including the walk of shame and the
drunk dial. These unflattering behaviors render you his
doormat, and ultimately push him away.

1. Don't disagree with why things ended. If he brings up
the reasons why your relationship ended, don't disagree with
him. Find the truth in what he's saying , acknowledge it and
apologize for it. It's better to be happy and loved than to be
right. Wanting to be right is your ego stepping in and
overshadowing your soul's desire to be happy and loved.

2. Don't try to convince him of all the reasons why he
should come back to you. Trying to convince your ex why
he should come back to you pushes him further away. It
reinforces why he's better off without you because you
appear needy and desperate . Needy and desperate are traits
that will kill any attraction he may have for you.Men are drawn to women who are happy with themselves.
So, be happy, live your life and let your radiant energy cause
him to second guess why you're not together. Remember,
you are a prize. You should never have to convince him to
be with you.

3. Take responsibility for your role in the breakup . In
every breakup you've experienced, you're the common
denominator. Instead of blaming him for what's happened,
look within and determine how you contributed to the
demise of your relationship. For instance, if you've tended to
question your exes because you have a hard time trusting
them, you have trust issues . Do the inner work to learn how
to trust yourself so that you become more trusting. If he
comes back, this issue won't resurface and cause another
breakup.
4. Let him come to you. A man places a higher value on
getting what he has to work for. When you miss your ex,
don't make it easy for him. Instead of calling him during a
weak moment, call a supportive friend. The space created
lets him miss you and wonder what you're doing. He will
contact you because he wants to see you, wants a booty call
(decline politely), misses you, etc. When he does, respond
accordingly. Avoid having sex with him until the issues that
led to the break up are resolved.
5. Put yourself first. Put yourself first and do what's best for
you. When he comes to you, don't pick up where the
relationship left off. At this point, he has more of an
incentive to resolve the issues that led to the breakup
because he wants you back. Now is the time to address and
work through these issues. Don't let him convince you that
the problem was yours. Even if the problem started with
you, the way he responded or didn't respond made things
worse.
Do the inner work to resolve these issues
without letting him know you're doing the work. The reason
you don't need to let him know is because he won't believe it
until he experiences the changes. Just do the work and see
how he responds. If he responds positively, you're moving in
the right direction. If he continues responding in the way
that contributed to your breakup, he's not the one for you .
6. Hold a clear and positive vision. Be clear on how you
want your relationship to be this time around. Then behave
and act in ways that support your vision and make you feel
good about yourself. Let things unfold naturally and stay
open to the outcome. If you find yourself becoming obsessed
with getting your ex back , relax and trust that things will
work out for your greater good. If he doesn’t come back ,
understand that there may be someone else who is better for
you. Let God, the higher power, the Universe or whatever
you believe in bring you the man you're supposed to be
with.