How To Make Him Jealous

Every now and then, there may come a time when you get pissed off with a guy.

You may like him, you may be dating him, or you may have broken up with him.

But at the bottom of it all, you may want his attention or you may want to prove your worth to him.

And when you’re upset with a guy or just crying out for his attention, there are a few ways to pierce his heart and make him sit up and take notice of you.

And it all comes down to this.

For a guy to take notice of you, you need to become desirable in his eyes.

Better yet, you need to make him feel like you’re unattainable.

And the only way to do all this is by understanding how to make a guy jealous.

There are some ways to whet his appetite for your company. If your diary is always free, whenever he wants, he won't have as much value on your time. You need to create balance, use psychology that scarcity increases value. It can be hard because on some level you will feel deprived yourself. However, I promise you that not being as available will increase his interest in you.

1. Don't pick up the phone immediately every time he calls. An odd time even let it go to voicemail. Let those old texts lie, texting is really too impersonal, you want him with you, 2nd best is calling.

2. Have BlackOut times, like an exercise classes, afternoon tea or lunch with a friend. If he wants to see you Mondays and you are tired, make an excuse, don't burst a gut.

3. Make sure he knows that though you are unavailable sometimes, you are available...say...Saturday night.

4. Remember if he can 'slot' you into his diary at times that suit him only, i.e you go out of your way to suit him. He may not then see you at times which would be better for your timetable, like when you've more time to get ready, have your hair done, you have a free evening and day off next day. If you want those times filled, you cut down on his other times that don't suit you.

5. Never change your arrangements, letting down friends to be with him. Don't let him call the shots. Your time is important too, he needs to respect that. Don't be afraid to make an arrangement for, say, Saturday night if he hasn't made solid plans to be with you. This will make him book you in advance.

6. Make sure he knows you have a life you enjoy when you aren't with him. This makes you more attractive, and while you don''t want him jealous, let him wonder what YOU are up to in your busy, fun life, rather than assume you're there, all plans on hold trying to spend more time with him. He will feel trapped and like spending time with you is a chore if you nag him.

7. Take up a new hobby, take pride in your appearance, make subtle changes like a different lipstick, blow dry your hair differently, small changes no matter how subtle leave him thinking there is more to learn about you.

8. Have a good sense of humour.

9. Do not text, or call too much during the day, the less you are there through texts, mails, calls, the more he will have to spend time WITH you, which is what you want. Save your exciting news, bits of information, updates until he is with you..Keep phonecalls and text to the absolute minimum, just to make arrangements. Smile when you speak on the phone, speak slowly, but GET OFF

How To Get Him Back Without Seeming Needy Or Desperate

If you're a woman who has tried to get your ex back, you've
most likely taken the "desperate times call for desperate
measures" approach, causing you to do all kinds of
unfortunate things, including the walk of shame and the
drunk dial. These unflattering behaviors render you his
doormat, and ultimately push him away.

1. Don't disagree with why things ended. If he brings up
the reasons why your relationship ended, don't disagree with
him. Find the truth in what he's saying , acknowledge it and
apologize for it. It's better to be happy and loved than to be
right. Wanting to be right is your ego stepping in and
overshadowing your soul's desire to be happy and loved.

2. Don't try to convince him of all the reasons why he
should come back to you. Trying to convince your ex why
he should come back to you pushes him further away. It
reinforces why he's better off without you because you
appear needy and desperate . Needy and desperate are traits
that will kill any attraction he may have for you.Men are drawn to women who are happy with themselves.
So, be happy, live your life and let your radiant energy cause
him to second guess why you're not together. Remember,
you are a prize. You should never have to convince him to
be with you.

3. Take responsibility for your role in the breakup . In
every breakup you've experienced, you're the common
denominator. Instead of blaming him for what's happened,
look within and determine how you contributed to the
demise of your relationship. For instance, if you've tended to
question your exes because you have a hard time trusting
them, you have trust issues . Do the inner work to learn how
to trust yourself so that you become more trusting. If he
comes back, this issue won't resurface and cause another
breakup.
4. Let him come to you. A man places a higher value on
getting what he has to work for. When you miss your ex,
don't make it easy for him. Instead of calling him during a
weak moment, call a supportive friend. The space created
lets him miss you and wonder what you're doing. He will
contact you because he wants to see you, wants a booty call
(decline politely), misses you, etc. When he does, respond
accordingly. Avoid having sex with him until the issues that
led to the break up are resolved.
5. Put yourself first. Put yourself first and do what's best for
you. When he comes to you, don't pick up where the
relationship left off. At this point, he has more of an
incentive to resolve the issues that led to the breakup
because he wants you back. Now is the time to address and
work through these issues. Don't let him convince you that
the problem was yours. Even if the problem started with
you, the way he responded or didn't respond made things
worse.
Do the inner work to resolve these issues
without letting him know you're doing the work. The reason
you don't need to let him know is because he won't believe it
until he experiences the changes. Just do the work and see
how he responds. If he responds positively, you're moving in
the right direction. If he continues responding in the way
that contributed to your breakup, he's not the one for you .
6. Hold a clear and positive vision. Be clear on how you
want your relationship to be this time around. Then behave
and act in ways that support your vision and make you feel
good about yourself. Let things unfold naturally and stay
open to the outcome. If you find yourself becoming obsessed
with getting your ex back , relax and trust that things will
work out for your greater good. If he doesn’t come back ,
understand that there may be someone else who is better for
you. Let God, the higher power, the Universe or whatever
you believe in bring you the man you're supposed to be
with.

When you feel ignored by your partner

When you don't feel very important to your partner anymore
and it's driving you crazy, you can end up saying and doing all
kinds of things that just make your partner pull even further
away from you.
Whether your partner believes that he or she is guilty of
ignoring you is irrelevant because in most instances, feeling ignored is all in the eye
of the beholder.

When you feel ignored, no amount of logic and explanation can make it better.
And you can still be jealous and feel ignored even though your partner feels he or she
is giving you lots of attention.
So what do you do if you're feeling ignored by your partner and your jealousy
causes you to start fights which threaten to ruin your relationship?

1. Ask yourself if there are times when you don't feel ignored by your partner. If
there are times when you feel like you are getting the love you want from him or
her, then weigh how much of the time you feel you're being ignored.

2. If you're not getting what you want from your relationship most of the time, then
stop being angry and take a step to figure out if you can get it from this relationship.

The absolute truth is that you can't force someone to act in loving ways toward you if they
don't want to.
Stop the unhealthy cycle of being angry and fighting and look at this relationship in
an honest light. Look at whether you both want the same things overall and if you
do, then find ways to come together.
If not, ask for what you want and pay attention to what your partner says and
does. Notice whether he or she comes toward you or away from you during the next
few weeks or months.
Then you'll have your answer.
If you're being ignored, take a bird's eye view of your situation and honestly assess
whether it's a deal breaker for you or not.
If it isn't, you can learn not to be jealous in those situations and you can learn to
enjoy your relationship as you once did.
If it is, then take a step to see if change is possible and if it isn't, as much as it may be
painful to you, take a step toward leaving so you can create a better relationship for
yourself.

Why Can’t I Find Mr. Right?

Often times, women have asked the question why can’t I find “Mr. Right?” Does he really
exist? The answer is maybe “Mr. Right” is right in front of you but you haven’t taken
the time to notice him, or maybe you can’t see him because you are spending too much
time on the wrong man and you are missing your opportunity to meet “Mr. Right.”

Real talk ladies, you have to know yourself first to really know what you are
looking for in a man…

Ladies, a man may not fit your “check list” exactly, but if he’s a good person, hard
working, and respects you, isn’t that what is most important? I’m not saying a man
should not have specific qualities that are important to you because there might be
some definite deal breakers such as he may not respect you, or he may be someone
who cheats or is abusive. I’m just saying don’t close the door on a man too soon just
because he does not fit everything you want. A lot of women get it twisted on what’s
really important and what makes a good man. Just because a man looks good, drives
a nice car, has status, money or power does not necessarily make him a great catch.

The bottom line is you should have standards, but try to be a little flexible if a man
does not fit everything you want entirely. The truth is no one is perfect, but there
may be someone out there perfect for you if you just open yourself up to him without
all the conditions and recognize his inner qualities. Also take the time to know
yourself before you try to find a man because you may be surprised to learn that
your own issues may be the reason that you have not found “Mr. Right.”
Please endeavour to leave a comment and tell us what you think. ....

How do you let go of insecurities and just trust the guy you're with when you're afraid of getting hurt?

There is no 100% guarantee that your partner will not cheat again. There is no 100%
guarantee that you two will stay together. At the same time, there is no guarantee
that your partner WILL cheat again (or at all). There is no guarantee that you two
will break up either.

That's the thing about life and relationships . They can be nearly
impossible to predict.
It's probable that, when you fell in love with your partner and you two started
your relationship, you would not have guessed that he or she would have an affair .
Maybe you had your concerns and worries, but it's highly likely that you did not
think your love would cheat.
Yet, he or she did.
Now, if you have decided to try to rebuild trust and repair your relationship, your
mind might be overrun with fears that your partner will break your heart by
cheating again. These fears are understandable and they can also stand in the way
of you being able to do what it takes to help put your relationship back on track.
It's a real quandary.
You don't want to be lied to and hurt by infidelity ever again and so you get
cautious and tentative. This cautiousness can hold you back from opening up to the
healing and growth that's necessary to save your relationship.
It can feel like one step forward and many steps back all of the time.
It would be great if there was some absolutely reliable way to know-- without a
doubt-- that your partner is actually telling you the truth now and that he or she
has really changed.
But there's not.
However, you can be wise and aware and, at the same time, begin to consciously let
go of your tentativeness and holding yourself back. You can pay close attention to
signs in your partner, yourself and your relationship that help you make the best
decisions about your future.
Look for these 4 indicators that relationship trust is building and healing...
#1: Communication is more open than closed.
Healthy communication is key to any relationship-- especially one that is rebuilding
after an affair. Go within yourself and remember a time (in the past or more
recently) when you felt relaxed, at ease and as if you and your partner were really
listening to one another.
Next, think about a time when you two were rigidly set in your own points of view
and it seemed that neither of you was really hearing the other.
These are examples of being open and being closed. It's important that you know
how each way of communicating feels so that when you're talking with your partner
and you feel more open than usual and he or she seems more open to you, you can
notice it. Please endeavour to leave a comment and spell out your opinion.  Thanks r

Can you become friends after the break-up?

Answer: Yes and no. Sure we all know couples who are tighter after they split up but this is a rare situation and I personally think that these types of friendships still harbor unresolved issues from the relationship that make it so that neither party is ready or able to fully move on. While being openly hostile to an ex also demonstrates unresolved issues/feelings and an inability to move forward, being buddy-buddy with a former flame is not as mature and civilized as it may seem on the surface. That said it is more than possible, and the most desirable thing, if you and an ex can reach a place of peaceful co-existence and mutual respect. Please share  your opinions below....

How to Cope When Your Parents Don't Like the Person You Love

It will probably happen to you at least once in your life. You'll fall for somebody that your parents don't like. Sometimes their disapproval will be valid, other times it will be irrational, but no matter what it will be hard for you to deal with.
What do you do when your parents can't stand the person you’re dating? Before taking on the role of diplomat, or even worse the role of family agitator, there are some things that you need to examine. You need to take an honest look at your romantic motivations and the reasons for your parents' objections.

Examining Your Motivations

Why are you dating this person? Be brutally honest. Are you crazy in love or loving driving your parents crazy? If you are motivated by rebellion the simplest and right thing to do is end the relationship.
It isn't fair for you to use somebody else to get to your parents. With the relationship out of the way you will be able to focus on the real issue of why you feel the need to resort to such drastic rebellion in the first place.

Do you have real and deep feelings for this person, or do you have less heart felt reasons for the relationship? Are you dating this

9 WAYS TO SHOW SOMEONE YOU LOVE THEM WITHOUT WORDS ...

Telling someone you love them, that’s one thing; but when you show someone you love them, that’s a whole other thing. How much weight you add behind this four letter word gives meaning to what you say, simply because the fundamental fact remains that action speaks louder than words. Think back to the times when someone said they loved you and when they backed up their confession with gestures. There’s a difference, isn't there? So, say it, (scratch that), show it. Show someone you love them before it’s too late.

1. ACTIVELY LISTEN

Even the simplest of gestures to show your love can make someone melt like butter on a stack of hot pancakes... and it doesn't get any simpler than listening. Listen to every word that escapes their parted lips even when it seems a little boring. And when they ask you, "Have I told you this before?," say "Yes, but tell it again," and act like you have forgotten a detail or two because they love telling this particular story and they chose you to share it with you (again)! Don’t be distracted, don’t interrupt, just listen. Listen to show someone you love them.

2. RANDOM SURPRISES

You will learn a lot about a person when you really listen to what they say, even in casual conversation. I remember once at a supermarket I casually mentioned to a friend what my favourite childhood cereal was. Ever since then, whenever I am upset, she brings me a box or two. It’s small surprises like this that lets someone know you love them. When they say, "OMG! You remembered!" that’s when you know you did it right! That’s when you are letting them know even the slightest detail about them is worth remembering.

3. TIME

Always make time for the people you love. It is understandable when you have to cancel plans because you are busy, but hardly making the effort to set aside time to meet up can convey that you are simply not interested. Set aside time to show your love even if it is picking the phone to call someone. "When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life you’ll never get back." – Rick Warren

4. DON’T SAY I TOLD YOU

To error is human nature, and sometimes regardless of their better judgement, they still make the mistake. Has there been a time when you told someone not to do something because you knew they would regret it, but they still did it anyway? Yes, you knew better but telling someone "I told you so" is not going to make them feel better. The mistake is done and they too know they should have listened to you. Comfort them instead and remind them that everyone messes up, and that it is more important to learn from their mistake than to dwell on it.

5. DON’T WAIT TO BE ASKED

Part of loving someone is making their life easier. This doesn't always have to be executed in grand gestures, like loaning money to a friend or family member or driving them across the state. It can be in the small things too, like taking the trash out without being asked, or once in a while doing something for them which they don’t like doing. I hate cleaning the hair out of my hairbrush. It just irks me and I practically cringe my face every time I clean it. I have a friend who noticed this and still cleans it for me despite my protest not to do so.

6. COOK YOUR HEART OUT

They say the way to man’s (or woman’s) heart is through his (or her) stomach. Most people usually cook on special occasions like birthdays and Valentine’s Day, but why not choose a random day instead to cook for that special person? Find out their favourite dishes and maybe even go all the way with table settings and a customized menu. Nothing says "I love you" like a home-cooked meal laboured in love. Bonus if you can cook for them and surprise them at their workplace!

7. FORGIVE AND FORGET

Sometimes the very people you love can hurt you the most and it is precisely because you love them that it stings a lot more. But with love comes forgiveness and you shouldn't say you have forgiven them only to throw their mistake in their face while having a fight. It is hard to forgive and forget because once you are hurt your defense mechanism is up, and you don’t want to be vulnerable again. So, while you say you forgive, you hold on to that grievance and that’s not really forgiving or forgetting, is it? Just remember that no one is perfect and it is worth it when it comes to forgiving and forgetting the slip-ups of someone you love.

8. CARE PACKAGE

This one is for all those loved ones living a little too far away from you than you would like them to be. Distance is no reason to slow down on the love you have to give. A care package of the little things you know they will like or need is just what you need to show you love them. There are so many ideas online of what you can put in a care package or how to make it extra special. Seal your love in a care package and send it to someone you love dearly who may be far in distance but not too far for your love.

7 REASONS GIRLS ARE ATTRACTED TO BAD BOYS AND HOW TO CURB IT...

There are reasons girls are attracted to bad boys. Unfortunately, not every story that involves a bad boy has a happy ending. Many of the endings are sad and leave a girl heartbroken. If you talk to a woman past her mid-twenties, you usually find out about how there was a bad boy in her past and about the lesson she learned from that experience. Let’s talk about the reasons girls are attracted to bad boys and how to move past that.

1. IT’S A CHALLENGE

One of the reasons girls are attracted to bad boys is that they seem like a challenge to them. It is something they have to work for. It isn’t always easy to get a bad boy’s attention. You don’t always learn there is a reason for that till much later. The reason is usually because a classic bad boy’s mind is on other things besides finding a good, caring girl to date.

2. THEY  BELIEVE THEY  CAN TAME THEM

Girls very mistakenly believe that they can tame a bad boy. There are very rare occasions when this is true. Usually, in those cases, a bad boy had a very good heart underneath his bad boy exterior, or the bad boy exterior wasn’t the true person; it was just an act. For the most part, a bad boy is not going to change his ways. He is who he is and only he can change that, not you.

3. IT’S EXCITING

Dating a bad boy seems exciting. That is the case at first, but trying to have a real relationship with a bad boy is not easy because this excitement becomes stress. Their antics get old quickly. If you are wondering how I know all of these things, I made the mistake of spending part of my life with a bad boy, too. It did not have a very happy ending, so I hope I can shed some light on this subject to save you the trouble.

4. IT’S REBELLIOUS

Sometimes dating a bad boy seems like it goes against everything you have ever known. It is different and new. It can seem like a whole new world to you. But it does not always open a part of the world that you want to see or be a part of. Think carefully before you head down this path.

5. THEY  SEEM LIKE A PRIZE

A bad boy can seem like a prize. After all, no one can get them in a committed relationship but you, right? This can make a girl feel like she is really special. But this prize does not always feel like a prize after a while. It can actually bring you a lot of heartache.

6. THEY ARE CHARMING

Bad boys can be charming. They have usually learned to stay out of as much trouble as they can by being this way. But charming is not the same thing as true and real personality traits. Charm can disappear when things don’t go their way. Don’t be taken in by this alone.

7. THEY HAVE COOL  TASTE

Let’s just be honest here, girls. A lot of times bad boys do have good taste. They drive cool cars, maybe a bike, they wear good clothes. They have the ability to just look cool. But appearances can be deceiving and cool taste really doesn't matter that much in the grand scheme of things, does it?

Getting involved with a bad boy can lead to a lot of heartache later on for you. Have you learned this lesson the hard way? What traits do you now look for in a guy?

7 TIPS FOR MOVING ON WHILE STILL IN LOVE WITH YOUR EX ...

It can be really difficult when you're moving on while still in love with your ex. Breaking up is hard, especially when love is involved, but that doesn't mean that you can't work on moving on while still in love with your ex. Exes come and go, and you've got to be able to toughen up and really get over them. Take a look below on how to move on while you are still in love with your ex girlfriends or boyfriends!

1. WORK ON FORGIVING YOURSELF

Always, when you're moving on while still in love with your ex, work on forgiving yourself. It sounds way easier than it is, but you need to do it. Forgive yourself for losing yourself in the relationship, allow yourself time to really get to know yourself. Remember, all relationships that end are hard, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to get over it. You've just got to try!

2. PRACTICE RELEASING REGRETS

Releasing all of your regrets is one surefire way to move on when you're still in love with your ex. You could write down all of your regrets on a piece of paper and burn it; that way you can completely forget about them. Releasing your regrets is really going to allow more room in your mind and soul for someone to step in.

3. REMEMBER THE BAD TIMES

Dwelling on the good times isn't going to help you really get over and move on from your relationship, you've got to dwell on the bad times. Think about all of the fights that you had, think about all of the bad times that he or she ruined, think about all of the horrible times in your relationship. Know what they are, so that you won't repeat them in the future or fool yourself into believing an idyllic view of your relationship.

4. RECONNECT WITH OLD FRIENDS

Moving on should be all about reconnecting with old friends. You want to maintain friendships that you might not have had when you were with your ex. Ask a friend you haven't seen for ages over for coffee – catch up and see what happens! This is truly one of the best steps for moving forward in your life!

5. CREATE A DEEP SEPARATION

When you and your ex finally call it completely quits, you've got to cut off all of the communication. I know it's hard, but why keep their number in your phone? Why keep texting them or calling them? Why do you need to talk to them constantly when you are trying to get over them?

6. GO THROUGH THE GRIEVING

Grieving your relationship is a natural process – and one that you need to go through. You need to make sure that you are going through this process, otherwise you might never, ever move on completely. Remember, it's natural to eat ice cream and cry. Let yourself!

7. REMEMBER THE BENEFITS OF MOVING ON

Finally, think of all of the different benefits of moving on! You finally have the time to be single, to go out whenever you want without someone keeping your time. You finally have all of the free time in the world and no one tying you down. Keep that in mind!

These are just a few of the things that can absolutely help you move on, even if you are in love with your ex. So, have you ever been in love with an ex or can't get over one? Give up your story!

Is He Into Me, Or Is It Just Sex?

Many men will answer under the gun but it might not be the authentic and sincere
response you're hoping for. Also, different people communicate their affections in
different ways.
While frequent sex is a clear indication of your man's physical interest in you,
gauging his other interests/intentions require paying attention to his actions of
affection. How can you know if he likes you in other ways?
Pay attention to the ways your guy connects with you:

Does he phone or text to just connect or is it always a booty call?

Does he express words or messages of endearment? Words expressing affection
and care?

Perhaps he does things for you to help you out when you're having a hard day or
are faced with a difficult task?

Gifts of any kind? Large or small? The simplest things can be the most endearing –
even a little note says a lot.

Does he ever go out of his way to do or share something special with you?

How likely is he to meet with you just for your company and not so much just for
sex?

Does he make time for you as a priority?

Lots to consider here. Answering these questions can give you clues as to how much
your lover might be thinking or caring about you beyond the sexual. Depending on
how new your relationship is, the extent to these affectionate efforts might differ.
And too, not everyone expresses their care and attention in the same way.
How do you like to be loved? Tell him that. You might find that the most important
indicator that he's thinking about, or likes you, is that he pays attention to your
preferences and makes deliberate attempts to connect with you on that level.
It's clear you connect on the physical level but that's hardly the full picture. Think
about how you like to be loved, tell him about it, and see if he can meet you there.
One way or another you'll discover if you're truly compatible in a deeper way.

How To Tell If A Man Is A Player

Here are some signs that indicate that a man is a player:

He Is Too Smooth
When a guy is a player, he is adept at striking conversations with girls, and is
usually suave in his flirting. Players know that girls are inherently attracted to
“studs” who are self-assured and confident, so they usually project a image of being
super cool and cocky.
They practice their opening lines, their conversation starters and some “flirty” jokes
and punch lines, with professional alacrity. They can “impress” a girl quite easily
with their mannerisms, body language and talk. Of course, most of it is completely
artificial and a “put on” purely for the purpose of catching a girl’s attention and
spiking her attraction.

He Flirts Openly And Boldly
When a guy is a player, his intention is to “capture” as many girls as he can. The
only way he’s going to accomplish this is by “flirting” as much as possible with as
many girls as possible. He will not lose time when he spots a likely target.
He will usually start off with deliberate eye contacts; you will notice that a player
maintains steady eye contact and does not look away when you look back at him. In
fact, he will give you a bold “playful” smile and wait for your reaction. If you look
inviting, he will start initiating friendly conversation and before long he will have
your contact number and may be even a “date”.
Men who are Players are really good at making eye contact. In contrast, most
“normal” guys are quite shy about making eye contact with a girl, and would usually
look away when the girl meets their eye. Players are bold in their approach, and
don’t come across a being shy about making eye contact, smiling or starting a
conversation, and flirting. It’s the quickness and boldness of their approach that
should tip you off.

He's A Bit Too "Interesting"
If guy triggers your attraction within a few moments of interaction, there’s a huge
possibility that he’s a player who is adept at pushing your buttons. When a guy is
only interested in having sex with you, he’s not going to waste time on “non sex”
hours. So he will try to up your attraction as quickly as he can. He will project
himself in such a manner that he comes across as the most “interesting” guy you’ve
ever met. For your own good, you should be cautious when a guy comes across as
being too interesting too soon.

He’s Keen On Physical Intimacy
Guys who are players don’t want to waste their time on developing any “emotional”
intimacy. The only thing they are interested in is physical intimacy and they go for it
as quickly as they can. They will start touching a girl by the first date, and might
even try kissing her. By the second date, they usually try to initiate some form of
physical intimacy. If they sense that a girl is too reserved or cautious, they usually
move on to more interesting prospects. You can almost sense a sexual tension in their
voice and body language, when they are with you on a date.

He Shows A Lot Of "Fake" Interest In You
A players knows that the easiest way to get a girl “swooning” over him is to give
her the “initial” importance. So he praises her, he “listens” to all her opinions and
views, he lets her talk and pretends to be really interested in everything she says, he
pampers her with attention, and basically he makes her feel like she has found her
“prince charming”.

He Triggers "impulsiveness" In You
Girls can get really impulsive when they are blinded in the moment of attraction.
A guy who is a player, knows this weakness in girls. So he will instigate feelings of
“sexual” attraction by his mannerisms and then quickly get her to act out the impulse.
Basically the players are looking for girls who are “easy”, these are the ones who
are impulsive and short-sighted when blinded by attraction. When you are in the
throes of attraction it’s easy to act out of impulse and have sex with him, only to
realize later that you’ve played for.
It’s actually easy to weed out a player. Just make him wait for sex, and if he starts
losing interest you know what his agenda was to start with. If a guy really loves
you, he will not mind waiting for sex till it feels right. This is how you know if a
man really loves you or just wants to have sex with you.
Just remember that if a guy comes across as being too smooth in his approach, it’s
basically because of the practiced ease – he’s just playing you like he has played
others. The only problem is that as a girl, you can get blinded in your attraction.

This article was in response to the question "how to tell if a man is a player?".
Please feel free to leave your comments below.

7 Undeniable Signs He Loves You By Janet Ong Zimmerman

He said he does but you're still unsure. Here are 7 undeniable
signs he loves you.
It can be hard to know if the guy you're with loves you or
loves you not. From my own experience and the women I
coach, a few things makes it difficult to know if he loves you:
your definition and experience of love is different from his
your expectations that love has to be a certain way
your insecurities get in the way of seeing things clearly
and his words, behaviors and actions are contradicting,
causing you to doubt his feelings for you.
Guys you've known for a short time will tell you they love
you without really knowing who you are. If this happens,
don't believe them. They most likely have an ulterior motive,
like trying to have sex with you , and are using those three
big words to sway you into bed.
Guys say they love you but don't treat you as if they do
because they don't know how to love. They love themselves
more than they love you or aren't capable of love. You will
know you're with this kind of guy because you will doubt
and question his love for you.
Guys who don't say those three words and don't treat you
well. These guys don't love you. You should leave this kind
of person to be available for a somene who will treat you
well.
Guys who don't say those three words, yet treat you with
love. These guys may actually love you. They may not wear
their heart on their sleeves and are more comfortable
expressing their love through actions instead of words .
Guys who say they love you and treat you with love. There
is no doubt that they love you. If you date or are in a
relationship with this guy, he is a keeper.
So, how can you know if the guy you’re with truly loves you
or loves you not? If your guy exhibits these 7 signs, he most
likely loves you.

1. He Treats You Well
A guy who loves you is considerate of your feelings, needs
and desires. He makes them as important as his desires and
needs. He is concerned with your well-being and will do
things to make your life better, sometimes going out of his
way to do so. Not only does he treat you well, he is also good
to your family and friends.

2. He Is Generous With His Time
He doesn't let too much time go by without seeing you. When
he is available, he wants to be with you and chooses to
spend his time with you. If you're in a long distance
relationship, he is spending time with you whenever your
schedules allow. And you are together during major holidays
such as Valentine's Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New
Year's Eve.

3. He Makes You A Priority
You are at the forefront of his mind and he maintains
contact in between the times you see each other. He
considers you when making decisions and is considerate
about doing things you want to do. When speaking, he uses
"we" instead of "I", and includes you in his future plans.

4. He Cares For You
A guy who loves you is genuinely happy for you when good
things happen to you. He is compassionate when you're
going through challenges. This guy is there for you in the
good and not so good times. He thinks about you and
surprises you with tokens of affection outside of your
birthday, Christmas and Valentine's Day. He will also
challenge you by calling you out on stuff to help you become
a better person.

5. He Wants People To Know About You
He is affectionate with you in public by holding your hand,
putting his arm around you and/or hugging you. He is proud
to be with you and has introduced you to his family and
friends. He brings you to family functions and get-togethers
with friends, and takes you to company events.

6. He Treats Your Relationship With Integrity
He is trustworthy and loyal to you and your relationship. He
is upfront with you about his past girlfriends and skeletons
in his closet. He does what he says and will let you know if
he's not able to. When issues come up, he is willing to work
through them. Although he isn't perfect, he tries to be a
better man.

7. He Wants The Best For You
A guy who loves you encourages you to do things you love,
even if it means doing these things without him. He wants
you to spend time with family and friends. He encourages
you to find and live your passions, knowing that if you are
happy and engaged with life, you'll be happy and engaged in
your relationship with him.
Behaviors and Actions Mean More than Words
Don't believe a man's " I love you " if his behaviors and
actions aren't backing up his words. You'll know if you're in
this situation because you will feel uncertain and question
his love for you. Pay attention to this feeling because your
intuition is telling you something isn't right.
Place less weight on his words and more weight on his
behaviors and actions. From my experience, a man's
behaviors and actions are more revealing and show if he
loves you or not. It's easier for a man to say, "I love you"
because that's what you want to hear. The true test of
whether he loves you is if he exhibits the signs described
earlier. When a man loves you, you won't need to hear the
words because you will just know. What other signs show
that he loves you?Leave a comment below with your

How do you know your man is committed to you

Well, let me start by saying that this is a tricky question to answer. All guys are
different. My perspective may not be the same perspective as your man's.  But there
are usually clear signals that a guy will give if he is truly committed.  Here are a
few tips for women to help them understand if their man is in it for the long haul or
just playing games:

1. Is your guy a man of his word?
One immediate, or almost immediate indicator that your man is committed to you, or
that at least he's trying hard to fight for you while away, is to see if he is keeping his
word. For me, keeping your word is one of the most important elements to keep
harmony in a long distance relationship or in any relationship. Keeping your word
builds trust and respect, and makes everything much easier, because if he says it, you
know it's happening. For example, if he tells you he's going to see you on the first
opportunity he has, either a vacation, a long weekend, or even a couple days from
work, make sure he does it, and does not take this opportunity to go out with his
friends instead. Or if he tells you he loves you, make sure he shows it, because
remember, words fly as fast as the wind.

2. Is he keeping the romance or the fire on in the relationship?
Being away doesn't mean he should stop being romantic. Being away means his
body is away, not his heart, not his soul, not his mind. Make sure he takes care of
the little details that make you happy. I'm going to put myself as an example on this
one (sorry!). As you know, or if you don't know now you'll now know; I live on a
tiny (very tiny) island in the middle of nowhere. This place has a lot of challenges;
slow Internet, limited courier services, telecommunication issues, etc., just to mention
a few, nevertheless I always remember to send a gift on special occasions. On
Easter of 2008, I sent her a big basket full of candy and other goodies. Valentine's
day, I sent her a box of chocolates. One day, just because I missed her, I sent her a
big stuffed animal (a monkey to be specific), so she could hold it at night, if she missed
me. Not that I resemble a monkey or anything, but I figured it was a good way to
keep the romance flowing and a good way for her to remember me at night, or just
anytime she saw it. The point of the story is to make sure your man keeps you happy
and romanced, because you deserve it!

3. Does your man ever talk about the "M" word, or at least a formal proposal?
Being on a long distance relationship requires a LOT of commitment, like we've
said before, but most important is the benefit from it, after it is over. That is why it
is very important for your man to talk about your future together. Does he talk
about marriage or about proposing or anything as such? If he doesn't then you should
ask yourself why. There must be a reason why he wants to continue with a
relationship while away. Just make sure he's not playing with you and just having
you to cover his solitude. If your man talks about the next step, he is committed. If
he doesn't, ask him why not, and discuss it with him. There's nothing better than a
good discussion about your future with him. It'll give you a good indicator of what
he's up to. Just make sure you don't pressure him, otherwise he can feel threatened
(you know how men are!). Just have an open and honest discussion about it, see the
pros and cons, and you'll open a channel of communication that will be very
rewarding.
Long distance relationships are challenging by nature, and like I said before, they
require a lot of commitment, so if you and your man had a discussion about in
advance, and went for it, I can almost reassure you that he is committed enough.
It's just the little things that keep the glow on the relationship (from both sides). The
key is to always talk about how you feel and be open to accept things and change
things if necessary. Remember: "Comitttment is the path to success"

How to Drop Him to His Knees and Make Him Beg For You

What would you give to be able to drop
any man to his knees and make him beg for
you? How great would it be to make men
want you so bad that they'd do anything
just to have you? What would you say if
someone told you that any woman could
have this ability? Would you believe that
an understanding of male psychology is all
it takes to have this power over men?
Read on to find out what it takes to
capture a man's interest and make him beg
for you.
Men are primitive, instinctual creatures.
They first notice a woman with their eyes. You don't have to be a super model for
men to find you attractive, but womanly charm is still crucial to getting men
interested.
Beauty may only be skin deep, but it's still nature's way of signifying the quality of a
mate. Make this knowledge work for you and give guys something to look at by
emphasizing your best physical assets. If you have great lips or eyes, wear makeup
that highlights them. If you have great arms or legs, wear clothing that makes your
best body parts stand out. Achieve the full potential of your own unique brand of
beauty and you're guaranteed to start attracting guys.
After making that first, immediate impression, guys begin to notice girls with their
other senses. The sense of smell is second in importance only to sight. Body odor or
bad breath can send men running for the hills, so personal hygiene is crucial. Better
yet, a pleasing perfume or hair wash can captivate a man's primitive feelings. Don't
wear perfumes just because you think they smell good. Try to pick out something that
you know guys like instead.
Touch comes next. Little instances of contact, whether brushing against a guy
casually in passing or touching his hand during conversation, can drive them crazy.
The slightest touch can send shivers up a man's spine and silently make him beg for
you to touch him more.
In terms of conversation itself, nothing captures a man's interest more than mystery.
In order to make a man beg for you, you need to learn how to give him just enough
of what he wants so he'll have to come back looking for more. When it comes to
getting to know a man, taking things slowly is crucial. He needs to know that he has
to spend quality time with you if he really wants to get close to you. The harder you
make it for him to get to know you, the more he'll beg for you to tell him more.