Is He Into Me, Or Is It Just Sex?

Many men will answer under the gun but it might not be the authentic and sincere
response you're hoping for. Also, different people communicate their affections in
different ways.
While frequent sex is a clear indication of your man's physical interest in you,
gauging his other interests/intentions require paying attention to his actions of
affection. How can you know if he likes you in other ways?
Pay attention to the ways your guy connects with you:

Does he phone or text to just connect or is it always a booty call?

Does he express words or messages of endearment? Words expressing affection
and care?

Perhaps he does things for you to help you out when you're having a hard day or
are faced with a difficult task?

Gifts of any kind? Large or small? The simplest things can be the most endearing –
even a little note says a lot.

Does he ever go out of his way to do or share something special with you?

How likely is he to meet with you just for your company and not so much just for
sex?

Does he make time for you as a priority?

Lots to consider here. Answering these questions can give you clues as to how much
your lover might be thinking or caring about you beyond the sexual. Depending on
how new your relationship is, the extent to these affectionate efforts might differ.
And too, not everyone expresses their care and attention in the same way.
How do you like to be loved? Tell him that. You might find that the most important
indicator that he's thinking about, or likes you, is that he pays attention to your
preferences and makes deliberate attempts to connect with you on that level.
It's clear you connect on the physical level but that's hardly the full picture. Think
about how you like to be loved, tell him about it, and see if he can meet you there.
One way or another you'll discover if you're truly compatible in a deeper way.

How To Tell If A Man Is A Player

Here are some signs that indicate that a man is a player:

He Is Too Smooth
When a guy is a player, he is adept at striking conversations with girls, and is
usually suave in his flirting. Players know that girls are inherently attracted to
“studs” who are self-assured and confident, so they usually project a image of being
super cool and cocky.
They practice their opening lines, their conversation starters and some “flirty” jokes
and punch lines, with professional alacrity. They can “impress” a girl quite easily
with their mannerisms, body language and talk. Of course, most of it is completely
artificial and a “put on” purely for the purpose of catching a girl’s attention and
spiking her attraction.

He Flirts Openly And Boldly
When a guy is a player, his intention is to “capture” as many girls as he can. The
only way he’s going to accomplish this is by “flirting” as much as possible with as
many girls as possible. He will not lose time when he spots a likely target.
He will usually start off with deliberate eye contacts; you will notice that a player
maintains steady eye contact and does not look away when you look back at him. In
fact, he will give you a bold “playful” smile and wait for your reaction. If you look
inviting, he will start initiating friendly conversation and before long he will have
your contact number and may be even a “date”.
Men who are Players are really good at making eye contact. In contrast, most
“normal” guys are quite shy about making eye contact with a girl, and would usually
look away when the girl meets their eye. Players are bold in their approach, and
don’t come across a being shy about making eye contact, smiling or starting a
conversation, and flirting. It’s the quickness and boldness of their approach that
should tip you off.

He's A Bit Too "Interesting"
If guy triggers your attraction within a few moments of interaction, there’s a huge
possibility that he’s a player who is adept at pushing your buttons. When a guy is
only interested in having sex with you, he’s not going to waste time on “non sex”
hours. So he will try to up your attraction as quickly as he can. He will project
himself in such a manner that he comes across as the most “interesting” guy you’ve
ever met. For your own good, you should be cautious when a guy comes across as
being too interesting too soon.

He’s Keen On Physical Intimacy
Guys who are players don’t want to waste their time on developing any “emotional”
intimacy. The only thing they are interested in is physical intimacy and they go for it
as quickly as they can. They will start touching a girl by the first date, and might
even try kissing her. By the second date, they usually try to initiate some form of
physical intimacy. If they sense that a girl is too reserved or cautious, they usually
move on to more interesting prospects. You can almost sense a sexual tension in their
voice and body language, when they are with you on a date.

He Shows A Lot Of "Fake" Interest In You
A players knows that the easiest way to get a girl “swooning” over him is to give
her the “initial” importance. So he praises her, he “listens” to all her opinions and
views, he lets her talk and pretends to be really interested in everything she says, he
pampers her with attention, and basically he makes her feel like she has found her
“prince charming”.

He Triggers "impulsiveness" In You
Girls can get really impulsive when they are blinded in the moment of attraction.
A guy who is a player, knows this weakness in girls. So he will instigate feelings of
“sexual” attraction by his mannerisms and then quickly get her to act out the impulse.
Basically the players are looking for girls who are “easy”, these are the ones who
are impulsive and short-sighted when blinded by attraction. When you are in the
throes of attraction it’s easy to act out of impulse and have sex with him, only to
realize later that you’ve played for.
It’s actually easy to weed out a player. Just make him wait for sex, and if he starts
losing interest you know what his agenda was to start with. If a guy really loves
you, he will not mind waiting for sex till it feels right. This is how you know if a
man really loves you or just wants to have sex with you.
Just remember that if a guy comes across as being too smooth in his approach, it’s
basically because of the practiced ease – he’s just playing you like he has played
others. The only problem is that as a girl, you can get blinded in your attraction.

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7 Undeniable Signs He Loves You By Janet Ong Zimmerman

He said he does but you're still unsure. Here are 7 undeniable
signs he loves you.
It can be hard to know if the guy you're with loves you or
loves you not. From my own experience and the women I
coach, a few things makes it difficult to know if he loves you:
your definition and experience of love is different from his
your expectations that love has to be a certain way
your insecurities get in the way of seeing things clearly
and his words, behaviors and actions are contradicting,
causing you to doubt his feelings for you.
Guys you've known for a short time will tell you they love
you without really knowing who you are. If this happens,
don't believe them. They most likely have an ulterior motive,
like trying to have sex with you , and are using those three
big words to sway you into bed.
Guys say they love you but don't treat you as if they do
because they don't know how to love. They love themselves
more than they love you or aren't capable of love. You will
know you're with this kind of guy because you will doubt
and question his love for you.
Guys who don't say those three words and don't treat you
well. These guys don't love you. You should leave this kind
of person to be available for a somene who will treat you
well.
Guys who don't say those three words, yet treat you with
love. These guys may actually love you. They may not wear
their heart on their sleeves and are more comfortable
expressing their love through actions instead of words .
Guys who say they love you and treat you with love. There
is no doubt that they love you. If you date or are in a
relationship with this guy, he is a keeper.
So, how can you know if the guy you’re with truly loves you
or loves you not? If your guy exhibits these 7 signs, he most
likely loves you.

1. He Treats You Well
A guy who loves you is considerate of your feelings, needs
and desires. He makes them as important as his desires and
needs. He is concerned with your well-being and will do
things to make your life better, sometimes going out of his
way to do so. Not only does he treat you well, he is also good
to your family and friends.

2. He Is Generous With His Time
He doesn't let too much time go by without seeing you. When
he is available, he wants to be with you and chooses to
spend his time with you. If you're in a long distance
relationship, he is spending time with you whenever your
schedules allow. And you are together during major holidays
such as Valentine's Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New
Year's Eve.

3. He Makes You A Priority
You are at the forefront of his mind and he maintains
contact in between the times you see each other. He
considers you when making decisions and is considerate
about doing things you want to do. When speaking, he uses
"we" instead of "I", and includes you in his future plans.

4. He Cares For You
A guy who loves you is genuinely happy for you when good
things happen to you. He is compassionate when you're
going through challenges. This guy is there for you in the
good and not so good times. He thinks about you and
surprises you with tokens of affection outside of your
birthday, Christmas and Valentine's Day. He will also
challenge you by calling you out on stuff to help you become
a better person.

5. He Wants People To Know About You
He is affectionate with you in public by holding your hand,
putting his arm around you and/or hugging you. He is proud
to be with you and has introduced you to his family and
friends. He brings you to family functions and get-togethers
with friends, and takes you to company events.

6. He Treats Your Relationship With Integrity
He is trustworthy and loyal to you and your relationship. He
is upfront with you about his past girlfriends and skeletons
in his closet. He does what he says and will let you know if
he's not able to. When issues come up, he is willing to work
through them. Although he isn't perfect, he tries to be a
better man.

7. He Wants The Best For You
A guy who loves you encourages you to do things you love,
even if it means doing these things without him. He wants
you to spend time with family and friends. He encourages
you to find and live your passions, knowing that if you are
happy and engaged with life, you'll be happy and engaged in
your relationship with him.
Behaviors and Actions Mean More than Words
Don't believe a man's " I love you " if his behaviors and
actions aren't backing up his words. You'll know if you're in
this situation because you will feel uncertain and question
his love for you. Pay attention to this feeling because your
intuition is telling you something isn't right.
Place less weight on his words and more weight on his
behaviors and actions. From my experience, a man's
behaviors and actions are more revealing and show if he
loves you or not. It's easier for a man to say, "I love you"
because that's what you want to hear. The true test of
whether he loves you is if he exhibits the signs described
earlier. When a man loves you, you won't need to hear the
words because you will just know. What other signs show
that he loves you?Leave a comment below with your

How do you know your man is committed to you

Well, let me start by saying that this is a tricky question to answer. All guys are
different. My perspective may not be the same perspective as your man's.  But there
are usually clear signals that a guy will give if he is truly committed.  Here are a
few tips for women to help them understand if their man is in it for the long haul or
just playing games:

1. Is your guy a man of his word?
One immediate, or almost immediate indicator that your man is committed to you, or
that at least he's trying hard to fight for you while away, is to see if he is keeping his
word. For me, keeping your word is one of the most important elements to keep
harmony in a long distance relationship or in any relationship. Keeping your word
builds trust and respect, and makes everything much easier, because if he says it, you
know it's happening. For example, if he tells you he's going to see you on the first
opportunity he has, either a vacation, a long weekend, or even a couple days from
work, make sure he does it, and does not take this opportunity to go out with his
friends instead. Or if he tells you he loves you, make sure he shows it, because
remember, words fly as fast as the wind.

2. Is he keeping the romance or the fire on in the relationship?
Being away doesn't mean he should stop being romantic. Being away means his
body is away, not his heart, not his soul, not his mind. Make sure he takes care of
the little details that make you happy. I'm going to put myself as an example on this
one (sorry!). As you know, or if you don't know now you'll now know; I live on a
tiny (very tiny) island in the middle of nowhere. This place has a lot of challenges;
slow Internet, limited courier services, telecommunication issues, etc., just to mention
a few, nevertheless I always remember to send a gift on special occasions. On
Easter of 2008, I sent her a big basket full of candy and other goodies. Valentine's
day, I sent her a box of chocolates. One day, just because I missed her, I sent her a
big stuffed animal (a monkey to be specific), so she could hold it at night, if she missed
me. Not that I resemble a monkey or anything, but I figured it was a good way to
keep the romance flowing and a good way for her to remember me at night, or just
anytime she saw it. The point of the story is to make sure your man keeps you happy
and romanced, because you deserve it!

3. Does your man ever talk about the "M" word, or at least a formal proposal?
Being on a long distance relationship requires a LOT of commitment, like we've
said before, but most important is the benefit from it, after it is over. That is why it
is very important for your man to talk about your future together. Does he talk
about marriage or about proposing or anything as such? If he doesn't then you should
ask yourself why. There must be a reason why he wants to continue with a
relationship while away. Just make sure he's not playing with you and just having
you to cover his solitude. If your man talks about the next step, he is committed. If
he doesn't, ask him why not, and discuss it with him. There's nothing better than a
good discussion about your future with him. It'll give you a good indicator of what
he's up to. Just make sure you don't pressure him, otherwise he can feel threatened
(you know how men are!). Just have an open and honest discussion about it, see the
pros and cons, and you'll open a channel of communication that will be very
rewarding.
Long distance relationships are challenging by nature, and like I said before, they
require a lot of commitment, so if you and your man had a discussion about in
advance, and went for it, I can almost reassure you that he is committed enough.
It's just the little things that keep the glow on the relationship (from both sides). The
key is to always talk about how you feel and be open to accept things and change
things if necessary. Remember: "Comitttment is the path to success"

How to Drop Him to His Knees and Make Him Beg For You

What would you give to be able to drop
any man to his knees and make him beg for
you? How great would it be to make men
want you so bad that they'd do anything
just to have you? What would you say if
someone told you that any woman could
have this ability? Would you believe that
an understanding of male psychology is all
it takes to have this power over men?
Read on to find out what it takes to
capture a man's interest and make him beg
for you.
Men are primitive, instinctual creatures.
They first notice a woman with their eyes. You don't have to be a super model for
men to find you attractive, but womanly charm is still crucial to getting men
interested.
Beauty may only be skin deep, but it's still nature's way of signifying the quality of a
mate. Make this knowledge work for you and give guys something to look at by
emphasizing your best physical assets. If you have great lips or eyes, wear makeup
that highlights them. If you have great arms or legs, wear clothing that makes your
best body parts stand out. Achieve the full potential of your own unique brand of
beauty and you're guaranteed to start attracting guys.
After making that first, immediate impression, guys begin to notice girls with their
other senses. The sense of smell is second in importance only to sight. Body odor or
bad breath can send men running for the hills, so personal hygiene is crucial. Better
yet, a pleasing perfume or hair wash can captivate a man's primitive feelings. Don't
wear perfumes just because you think they smell good. Try to pick out something that
you know guys like instead.
Touch comes next. Little instances of contact, whether brushing against a guy
casually in passing or touching his hand during conversation, can drive them crazy.
The slightest touch can send shivers up a man's spine and silently make him beg for
you to touch him more.
In terms of conversation itself, nothing captures a man's interest more than mystery.
In order to make a man beg for you, you need to learn how to give him just enough
of what he wants so he'll have to come back looking for more. When it comes to
getting to know a man, taking things slowly is crucial. He needs to know that he has
to spend quality time with you if he really wants to get close to you. The harder you
make it for him to get to know you, the more he'll beg for you to tell him more.

The Reasons Why Your Long Distance Relationship Will Never Work No Matter How Hard You Try

Long distance relationships have to be almost as bad to society as
catfishing. It is such a burdensome and taxing experience, it’s extremely
difficult to understand why anyone would put themselves through such an
experience. Before we delve into this and I fully break down each reason
this type of relationship is pointless and doesn’t work, we must
understand that I am referring to a long distance relationship that is
greater than two months.
It is important that we make this distinction because there are always
those people who have been separated for two weeks and think they
survived a long distance relationship. That is just bush league in
comparison to the types of relationships people have. Some even last for
years, when they seldom see each other and their only forms of
communication come via texts, phone calls and social media.
Such relationships require much effort and in the end many people realize
that it isn’t even worth it. Many people go into their freshman year of
college expecting a relationship with their high school sweet heart to last 4
years without much face-to-face contact. Although this is great for
people who are really dedicated, it a pointless experience for most who
bother torturing themselves with it. Share your thoughts below.

How Do I Tell Him It's Over?

Ending a relationship is never easy. Even if you've only been dating
a couple of months, the idea of calling it off yourself can produce
sweaty palms, guilt and propel you to stand in front of the mirror
rehearsing lines. You might wonder, "If only he'd breakup with me
first, I'd be off the hook." But no, he is growing more attached
while you are looking forward to moving on.
If you are thinking about breaking up with someone who you grew
close to, enjoyed the time you spend together, or even loved, how to
tell him it's over may weigh heavy on your mind. Yes, you want to
say the right thing, let him down easy and not hurt him beyond
repair. Nor do you want saying what you need to say to shatter you
or turn the event into a hate session. Careful consideration and
forethought can ease the process. Here are some tips that you may wish
to consider for ending a relationship on a positive note:

Be Sure Breaking Up Is What You Want to Do
If you just had a big argument the night before and now you want
revenge thinking that telling him it's over will show him you mean
business, you may need to curb your impulses. Give yourself a few days
and decide if breaking up is really what you want to do. Sometimes women
think that the threat of abandonment will turn their man around to
appreciate them a bit more.
If breaking up has been on your mind for quite a while and you have come
to the conclusion it is best that you part as friends, then by all means as
a woman you have just as much right to end the relationship as he does.

Choose the Right Place and the Right Time
A phone or text message is not the way to say, "I think we should stop
seeing each other." A young man recently sent me his girlfriend's last
text message in which she terminated their yearlong relationship by
saying, "I just can't do this gooey thing anymore." Though you might
have considered texting, you possess the maturity to know that a face-
to-face conversation would set a more respectful tone. Plan to meet in a
neutral public place, preferably somewhere you have not been as a couple.
A coffee shop is better than a restaurant because the last thing on your
mind will be food. Find a table in the corner where you can have a bit of
privacy and the stage is set for you to have a serious and heart-felt
conversation. If you meet at your place or his it is a set up for a long
drawn out dramatic end.
Timing is also important to consider. For instance, don't set the time
during his lunch hour knowing he will be in a rush to get back to work or
during finals week when he has to cram for tests in the days ahead. You
wouldn't want it on your conscience that you caused him to fail and
ruined his career dreams for the future.

Bury the Hatchet Before You Meet
Women break up with their guys usually for good reasons. And you may
have a list of things you just got tired of. You may also have a long list
of resentments some of which you never told him in the moment. Thinking
now is the time to vent a long list of grievances will only add more insult
to the situation. Keep your list down to three reasons why the relationship
isn't working for you anymore.

Be Honest About the Reasons Why You Want to Call It Off
Honesty is the best policy when stating your reasons. If you lie to save
face, he'll probably find out the truth from one of your friends. Make it
clear that you spent considerable time in coming to your decision and that
you first had to be honest with yourself about your feelings and
expectations of the relationship.

Don't Kill Him with Kindness or Think You Can Mentor Him
If you are like many women, you may feel a bit guilty being the one to
call it off. You want to be kind, but sweetening the conversation with too
many apologies may only confuse him. He'll think there's a chance you'll
come to your senses, forgive yourself and come back running to him.
Never use the break up session to give him advice as if you are coaching
him for a future relationship. He'll learn the lesson surrounding your
break up in his own way and in his own time.

Consider His Baggage as Well as Yours Before Opening Your Mouth
If you were intimate for long enough you know your guy's weaknesses and
vulnerable spots well. He may have issues about being made to seem wrong
or has a bit of abandonment phobia because his mother left him as a
child. If so, you will want to choose your words carefully so that you don't
push any of his buttons. Stress that the bond of friendship is what you
want now and that you have done a great deal of soul-searching, looking
at your previous patterns in relationship before coming to your decision.
Expand on that soul-searching process a bit so that he knows for sure
that the break up was not a hasty decision.

Listen to His Response Compassionately and Learn From It
As long as he is being respectful, it is important to let him have his say.
You may not like all that he tells you, but if you are bent on remaining
friends this will be a good test as to whether that will be possible. Don't
let yourself be swayed in the moment to give the relationship another
try. If he is extremely attached to you, he may try to make a good case
for the two of you remaining together. Tell him you need space and time
to consider what he has said.

Be Appreciative of His Friendship
Although many experts consider it inadvisable to pursue a friendship with
someone you were previously romantically involved with, continuing the
friendship is not impossible. In fact, it is preferable in cases when you
stand on common ground and are connected soul to soul. If you valued your
guy for his qualities and all he contributed to your life, you will want to
let him know how much you appreciated all that he did. With time, the
words of appreciation you express at the end of your romance will hold
more weight than the fact that you had to end it.