Why Can’t I Find Mr. Right?

Often times, women have asked the question why can’t I find “Mr. Right?” Does he really
exist? The answer is maybe “Mr. Right” is right in front of you but you haven’t taken
the time to notice him, or maybe you can’t see him because you are spending too much
time on the wrong man and you are missing your opportunity to meet “Mr. Right.”

Real talk ladies, you have to know yourself first to really know what you are
looking for in a man…

Ladies, a man may not fit your “check list” exactly, but if he’s a good person, hard
working, and respects you, isn’t that what is most important? I’m not saying a man
should not have specific qualities that are important to you because there might be
some definite deal breakers such as he may not respect you, or he may be someone
who cheats or is abusive. I’m just saying don’t close the door on a man too soon just
because he does not fit everything you want. A lot of women get it twisted on what’s
really important and what makes a good man. Just because a man looks good, drives
a nice car, has status, money or power does not necessarily make him a great catch.

The bottom line is you should have standards, but try to be a little flexible if a man
does not fit everything you want entirely. The truth is no one is perfect, but there
may be someone out there perfect for you if you just open yourself up to him without
all the conditions and recognize his inner qualities. Also take the time to know
yourself before you try to find a man because you may be surprised to learn that
your own issues may be the reason that you have not found “Mr. Right.”
Please endeavour to leave a comment and tell us what you think. ....

How do you let go of insecurities and just trust the guy you're with when you're afraid of getting hurt?

There is no 100% guarantee that your partner will not cheat again. There is no 100%
guarantee that you two will stay together. At the same time, there is no guarantee
that your partner WILL cheat again (or at all). There is no guarantee that you two
will break up either.

That's the thing about life and relationships . They can be nearly
impossible to predict.
It's probable that, when you fell in love with your partner and you two started
your relationship, you would not have guessed that he or she would have an affair .
Maybe you had your concerns and worries, but it's highly likely that you did not
think your love would cheat.
Yet, he or she did.
Now, if you have decided to try to rebuild trust and repair your relationship, your
mind might be overrun with fears that your partner will break your heart by
cheating again. These fears are understandable and they can also stand in the way
of you being able to do what it takes to help put your relationship back on track.
It's a real quandary.
You don't want to be lied to and hurt by infidelity ever again and so you get
cautious and tentative. This cautiousness can hold you back from opening up to the
healing and growth that's necessary to save your relationship.
It can feel like one step forward and many steps back all of the time.
It would be great if there was some absolutely reliable way to know-- without a
doubt-- that your partner is actually telling you the truth now and that he or she
has really changed.
But there's not.
However, you can be wise and aware and, at the same time, begin to consciously let
go of your tentativeness and holding yourself back. You can pay close attention to
signs in your partner, yourself and your relationship that help you make the best
decisions about your future.
Look for these 4 indicators that relationship trust is building and healing...
#1: Communication is more open than closed.
Healthy communication is key to any relationship-- especially one that is rebuilding
after an affair. Go within yourself and remember a time (in the past or more
recently) when you felt relaxed, at ease and as if you and your partner were really
listening to one another.
Next, think about a time when you two were rigidly set in your own points of view
and it seemed that neither of you was really hearing the other.
These are examples of being open and being closed. It's important that you know
how each way of communicating feels so that when you're talking with your partner
and you feel more open than usual and he or she seems more open to you, you can
notice it. Please endeavour to leave a comment and spell out your opinion.  Thanks r

Can you become friends after the break-up?

Answer: Yes and no. Sure we all know couples who are tighter after they split up but this is a rare situation and I personally think that these types of friendships still harbor unresolved issues from the relationship that make it so that neither party is ready or able to fully move on. While being openly hostile to an ex also demonstrates unresolved issues/feelings and an inability to move forward, being buddy-buddy with a former flame is not as mature and civilized as it may seem on the surface. That said it is more than possible, and the most desirable thing, if you and an ex can reach a place of peaceful co-existence and mutual respect. Please share  your opinions below....

How to Cope When Your Parents Don't Like the Person You Love

It will probably happen to you at least once in your life. You'll fall for somebody that your parents don't like. Sometimes their disapproval will be valid, other times it will be irrational, but no matter what it will be hard for you to deal with.
What do you do when your parents can't stand the person you’re dating? Before taking on the role of diplomat, or even worse the role of family agitator, there are some things that you need to examine. You need to take an honest look at your romantic motivations and the reasons for your parents' objections.

Examining Your Motivations

Why are you dating this person? Be brutally honest. Are you crazy in love or loving driving your parents crazy? If you are motivated by rebellion the simplest and right thing to do is end the relationship.
It isn't fair for you to use somebody else to get to your parents. With the relationship out of the way you will be able to focus on the real issue of why you feel the need to resort to such drastic rebellion in the first place.

Do you have real and deep feelings for this person, or do you have less heart felt reasons for the relationship? Are you dating this

9 WAYS TO SHOW SOMEONE YOU LOVE THEM WITHOUT WORDS ...

Telling someone you love them, that’s one thing; but when you show someone you love them, that’s a whole other thing. How much weight you add behind this four letter word gives meaning to what you say, simply because the fundamental fact remains that action speaks louder than words. Think back to the times when someone said they loved you and when they backed up their confession with gestures. There’s a difference, isn't there? So, say it, (scratch that), show it. Show someone you love them before it’s too late.

1. ACTIVELY LISTEN

Even the simplest of gestures to show your love can make someone melt like butter on a stack of hot pancakes... and it doesn't get any simpler than listening. Listen to every word that escapes their parted lips even when it seems a little boring. And when they ask you, "Have I told you this before?," say "Yes, but tell it again," and act like you have forgotten a detail or two because they love telling this particular story and they chose you to share it with you (again)! Don’t be distracted, don’t interrupt, just listen. Listen to show someone you love them.

2. RANDOM SURPRISES

You will learn a lot about a person when you really listen to what they say, even in casual conversation. I remember once at a supermarket I casually mentioned to a friend what my favourite childhood cereal was. Ever since then, whenever I am upset, she brings me a box or two. It’s small surprises like this that lets someone know you love them. When they say, "OMG! You remembered!" that’s when you know you did it right! That’s when you are letting them know even the slightest detail about them is worth remembering.

3. TIME

Always make time for the people you love. It is understandable when you have to cancel plans because you are busy, but hardly making the effort to set aside time to meet up can convey that you are simply not interested. Set aside time to show your love even if it is picking the phone to call someone. "When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life you’ll never get back." – Rick Warren

4. DON’T SAY I TOLD YOU

To error is human nature, and sometimes regardless of their better judgement, they still make the mistake. Has there been a time when you told someone not to do something because you knew they would regret it, but they still did it anyway? Yes, you knew better but telling someone "I told you so" is not going to make them feel better. The mistake is done and they too know they should have listened to you. Comfort them instead and remind them that everyone messes up, and that it is more important to learn from their mistake than to dwell on it.

5. DON’T WAIT TO BE ASKED

Part of loving someone is making their life easier. This doesn't always have to be executed in grand gestures, like loaning money to a friend or family member or driving them across the state. It can be in the small things too, like taking the trash out without being asked, or once in a while doing something for them which they don’t like doing. I hate cleaning the hair out of my hairbrush. It just irks me and I practically cringe my face every time I clean it. I have a friend who noticed this and still cleans it for me despite my protest not to do so.

6. COOK YOUR HEART OUT

They say the way to man’s (or woman’s) heart is through his (or her) stomach. Most people usually cook on special occasions like birthdays and Valentine’s Day, but why not choose a random day instead to cook for that special person? Find out their favourite dishes and maybe even go all the way with table settings and a customized menu. Nothing says "I love you" like a home-cooked meal laboured in love. Bonus if you can cook for them and surprise them at their workplace!

7. FORGIVE AND FORGET

Sometimes the very people you love can hurt you the most and it is precisely because you love them that it stings a lot more. But with love comes forgiveness and you shouldn't say you have forgiven them only to throw their mistake in their face while having a fight. It is hard to forgive and forget because once you are hurt your defense mechanism is up, and you don’t want to be vulnerable again. So, while you say you forgive, you hold on to that grievance and that’s not really forgiving or forgetting, is it? Just remember that no one is perfect and it is worth it when it comes to forgiving and forgetting the slip-ups of someone you love.

8. CARE PACKAGE

This one is for all those loved ones living a little too far away from you than you would like them to be. Distance is no reason to slow down on the love you have to give. A care package of the little things you know they will like or need is just what you need to show you love them. There are so many ideas online of what you can put in a care package or how to make it extra special. Seal your love in a care package and send it to someone you love dearly who may be far in distance but not too far for your love.

7 REASONS GIRLS ARE ATTRACTED TO BAD BOYS AND HOW TO CURB IT...

There are reasons girls are attracted to bad boys. Unfortunately, not every story that involves a bad boy has a happy ending. Many of the endings are sad and leave a girl heartbroken. If you talk to a woman past her mid-twenties, you usually find out about how there was a bad boy in her past and about the lesson she learned from that experience. Let’s talk about the reasons girls are attracted to bad boys and how to move past that.

1. IT’S A CHALLENGE

One of the reasons girls are attracted to bad boys is that they seem like a challenge to them. It is something they have to work for. It isn’t always easy to get a bad boy’s attention. You don’t always learn there is a reason for that till much later. The reason is usually because a classic bad boy’s mind is on other things besides finding a good, caring girl to date.

2. THEY  BELIEVE THEY  CAN TAME THEM

Girls very mistakenly believe that they can tame a bad boy. There are very rare occasions when this is true. Usually, in those cases, a bad boy had a very good heart underneath his bad boy exterior, or the bad boy exterior wasn’t the true person; it was just an act. For the most part, a bad boy is not going to change his ways. He is who he is and only he can change that, not you.

3. IT’S EXCITING

Dating a bad boy seems exciting. That is the case at first, but trying to have a real relationship with a bad boy is not easy because this excitement becomes stress. Their antics get old quickly. If you are wondering how I know all of these things, I made the mistake of spending part of my life with a bad boy, too. It did not have a very happy ending, so I hope I can shed some light on this subject to save you the trouble.

4. IT’S REBELLIOUS

Sometimes dating a bad boy seems like it goes against everything you have ever known. It is different and new. It can seem like a whole new world to you. But it does not always open a part of the world that you want to see or be a part of. Think carefully before you head down this path.

5. THEY  SEEM LIKE A PRIZE

A bad boy can seem like a prize. After all, no one can get them in a committed relationship but you, right? This can make a girl feel like she is really special. But this prize does not always feel like a prize after a while. It can actually bring you a lot of heartache.

6. THEY ARE CHARMING

Bad boys can be charming. They have usually learned to stay out of as much trouble as they can by being this way. But charming is not the same thing as true and real personality traits. Charm can disappear when things don’t go their way. Don’t be taken in by this alone.

7. THEY HAVE COOL  TASTE

Let’s just be honest here, girls. A lot of times bad boys do have good taste. They drive cool cars, maybe a bike, they wear good clothes. They have the ability to just look cool. But appearances can be deceiving and cool taste really doesn't matter that much in the grand scheme of things, does it?

Getting involved with a bad boy can lead to a lot of heartache later on for you. Have you learned this lesson the hard way? What traits do you now look for in a guy?

7 TIPS FOR MOVING ON WHILE STILL IN LOVE WITH YOUR EX ...

It can be really difficult when you're moving on while still in love with your ex. Breaking up is hard, especially when love is involved, but that doesn't mean that you can't work on moving on while still in love with your ex. Exes come and go, and you've got to be able to toughen up and really get over them. Take a look below on how to move on while you are still in love with your ex girlfriends or boyfriends!

1. WORK ON FORGIVING YOURSELF

Always, when you're moving on while still in love with your ex, work on forgiving yourself. It sounds way easier than it is, but you need to do it. Forgive yourself for losing yourself in the relationship, allow yourself time to really get to know yourself. Remember, all relationships that end are hard, but that doesn't mean it's impossible to get over it. You've just got to try!

2. PRACTICE RELEASING REGRETS

Releasing all of your regrets is one surefire way to move on when you're still in love with your ex. You could write down all of your regrets on a piece of paper and burn it; that way you can completely forget about them. Releasing your regrets is really going to allow more room in your mind and soul for someone to step in.

3. REMEMBER THE BAD TIMES

Dwelling on the good times isn't going to help you really get over and move on from your relationship, you've got to dwell on the bad times. Think about all of the fights that you had, think about all of the bad times that he or she ruined, think about all of the horrible times in your relationship. Know what they are, so that you won't repeat them in the future or fool yourself into believing an idyllic view of your relationship.

4. RECONNECT WITH OLD FRIENDS

Moving on should be all about reconnecting with old friends. You want to maintain friendships that you might not have had when you were with your ex. Ask a friend you haven't seen for ages over for coffee – catch up and see what happens! This is truly one of the best steps for moving forward in your life!

5. CREATE A DEEP SEPARATION

When you and your ex finally call it completely quits, you've got to cut off all of the communication. I know it's hard, but why keep their number in your phone? Why keep texting them or calling them? Why do you need to talk to them constantly when you are trying to get over them?

6. GO THROUGH THE GRIEVING

Grieving your relationship is a natural process – and one that you need to go through. You need to make sure that you are going through this process, otherwise you might never, ever move on completely. Remember, it's natural to eat ice cream and cry. Let yourself!

7. REMEMBER THE BENEFITS OF MOVING ON

Finally, think of all of the different benefits of moving on! You finally have the time to be single, to go out whenever you want without someone keeping your time. You finally have all of the free time in the world and no one tying you down. Keep that in mind!

These are just a few of the things that can absolutely help you move on, even if you are in love with your ex. So, have you ever been in love with an ex or can't get over one? Give up your story!